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Title: Outer Order, Inner Calm
Author: Gretchen Rubin
Genre: Non-fiction
Rating: 3/5
# pages: 165
Date read: August, 2021

For most of us, outer order contributes to inner calm. In a new book packed with more than one hundred concrete ideas, she helps us create the order and organization that can make our lives happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative.

In the context of a happy life, a messy desk or crowded coat closet is a trivial problem–yet Gretchen Rubin has found that getting control of the stuff of life makes us feel more in control of our lives generally. By getting rid of things we don’t use, don’t need, or don’t love, as well as things that don’t work, don’t fit, or don’t suit, we free our mind (and our shelves) for what we truly value.

In this trim book filled with insights, strategies, and sometimes surprising tips, Gretchen tackles the key challenges of creating outer order, by explaining how to “Make Choices,” “Create Order,” “Know Yourself–and Others,” “Cultivate Helpful Habits,” and, of course, “Add Beauty.”


A very quick read - it's only 165 pages, and pages with very little writing on them at that. It was a decent enough book, and made some solid recommendations, but for somebody who's read both "The Happiness Project" and "Happier at Home" as well as FlyLady's "Sink Reflections" and Marie Kondo's "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up", there was very little new information.
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Title: The Year of Living Danishly
Author: Helen Russell
Genre: Non-fiction
Rating: 4/5
# pages: Audiobook ~10hrs
Date read: June, 2019

Denmark is officially the happiest nation on Earth. When Helen Russell is forced to move to rural Jutland, can she discover the secrets of their happiness? Or will the long, dark winters and pickled herring take their toll?

The Year of Living Danishly looks at where the Danes get it right, where they get it wrong, and how we might just benefit from living a little more Danishly ourselves.


A fun read. I found it really interesting to see what parts of "living Danishly" really stood out to the author, and where she found the biggest differences... although I'm pretty sure part of the culture shock had more to do with the fact that she moved from London to "Sticksville-On-Sea" rather than because she moved from the UK to Denmark - I'm pretty sure I'd have found it a bit of a culture shock too!!

Her year of living Danishly was a good mix of "Hehe - yes, that's Danes for you", "Really, they don't do that elsewhere?" or "Woah... that's not common for Denmark AT ALL!". Mostly, though, I appreciated seeing our culture through foreign eyes -- especially eyes that recognized all our idiosyncrasies yet still grew to love us :-D

Unfortunately, Audible hadn't found the best narrator for this book. Lucy Price-Lewis did the best she could, I'm sure, and she did have a very pleasant voice to listen to. Unfortunately, however, Helen Russell included a LOT of Danish words and names, which Lucy Price-Lewis for the most part was completely unable to pronounce (to the point where I doubt she ever heard the Danish words spoken out loud, but just made a guess from their spelling - I'd expected more from an audiobook from Audible)... up to and including even the English words "Jutland" and "Copenhagen"... I'm willing to blame Danny Kaye for that last one, but it still grated on my nerves every time she said it.

Still a charming book though, and I'm glad to have read it.
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Title: Better than Before
Author: Gretchen Rubin
Genre: Non-fiction
Rating: 4/5
# pages: 320
Date read: January, 2016

Habits are the invisible architecture of everyday life. It takes work to make a habit, but once that habit is set, we can harness the energy of habits to build happier, stronger, more productive lives.

So if habits are a key to change, then what we really need to know is: How do we change our habits?

Better than Before answers that question. It presents a practical, concrete framework to allow readers to understand their habits - and to change them for good. Infused with Rubin's compelling voice, rigorous research, and easy humor, and packed with vivid stories of lives transformed, Better than Before explains the (sometimes counter-intuitive) core principles of habit formation.

Along the way, Rubin uses herself as guinea pig, tests her theories on family and friends, and answers reader questions.

Whether readers want to get more sleep, stop checking their devices, maintain a healthy weight, or finish an important project, habits make change possible. Reading just a few chapters of Better Than Before will make readers eager to start work on their own habits - even before they’ve finished the book.


Gretchen Rubin writes ridiculously readable books, and this newest one is no exception. While it didn't blow me away quite as much as her two Happiness Project books did, I still found it extremely engaging, relateable and useful.

From reading the book, I have realized I am a moderator, a lark, a marathoner with procrastinator tendencies and an underbuyer. I have no clue which of the four tendencies I belong to though, as I can relate to aspects of three of them! So all I know is that I'm definitely not a rebel, but whether I'm an upholder, a questioner or an obliger seems to depend on the situation.

But regardless of my tendency, the book contained a number of good pointers to use in the future when I find myself wanting to cultivate good habits (or get rid of bad ones).
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Title: Happier at Home
Author: Gretchen Rubin
Genre: Non-fiction, memoir
Rating: 5/5
# pages: 320
Date read: October, 2012

One Sunday afternoon, as she unloaded the dishwasher, Gretchen Rubin felt hit by a wave of homesickness. Homesick - why? She was standing right in her own kitchen. She felt homesick, she realized, with love for home itself. "Of all the elements of a happy life," she thought, "my home is the most important." In a flash, she decided to undertake a new happiness project, and this time, to focus on home.

And what did she want from her home? A place that calmed her, and energized her. A place that, by making her feel safe, would free her to take risks. Also, while Rubin wanted to be happier at home, she wanted to appreciate how much happiness was there already.

So, starting in September (the new January), Rubin dedicated a school year - September through May - to making her home a place of greater simplicity, comfort, and love.

Fortunately I ended up enjoying this just as much as "The Happiness Project". I had wondered how much new stuff there would be to write on the subject, but I actually thought she managed quite nicely, and there were even some things I preferred about this book compared to THP (of course there were also some things I preferred about THP, but I had expected nothing else).

As the title indicates, this book focused on being happy at home. It wasn't about changing your life, it was about making your home a happy place to be. With a move coming up, this meant even more to me than it probably would have otherwise. Many of Gretchen Rubin's resolutions here were more of a 'one time deal' thing than actual resolutions. Also, they were a LOT more Gretchen-specific than those in THP. Not that that's a bad thing, it just meant there were some things I had a harder time relating to.

I was grateful to her for pointing me towards Demeter Fragrance Library though. They have a perfume called "New Zealand"!!!!
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Title: The Happiness Project
Author: Gretchen Rubin
Genre: Non-fiction
Rating: 5/5
# pages: 296
Date read: April 2010, May 2010

Gretchen Rubin had an epiphany one rainy afternoon in the unlikeliest of places: a city bus. "The days are long, but the years are short," she realized. "Time is passing, and I'm not focusing enough on the things that really matter." In that moment, she decided to dedicate a year to her happiness project.

With humor and insight, she chronicles her adventures during the twelve months she spent test-driving the wisdom of the ages, current scientific research, and lessons from popular culture about how to be happier.

Rubin didn't have the option to uproot herself, nor did she really want to; instead she focused on improving her life as it was. Each month she tackled a new set of resolutions: give proofs of love, ask for help, find more fun, keep a gratitude notebook, forget about results. She immersed herself in principles set forth by all manner of experts, from Epicurus to Thoreau to Oprah to Martin Seligman to the Dalai Lama to see what worked for her... and what didn't.

It's been a long time since I last was this sad to finish a book - even longer since it happened to me with a non-fiction book! I ended up limiting myself to just one or two chapters a day, or I'd have breezed right through it. As it is, I'm now seriously considering turning back to page 1 and starting all over again.

Gretchen Rubin's book is down to earth, easy to read, and easy to relate to. Most of what's in the book can also be found on her blog (http://www.happiness-project.com), but I've found that I like things in a more condensed and structured manner, so I definitely benefitted from reading the book - I'm going to continue to subscribe to her rss-feed though.

"It's the rare person who can't benefit from starting a happiness project", Rubin writes, and I'm inclined to agree with her. Naturally everybody's project will look different, but it's been inspiring for me to follow Gretchen on her journey. She interspersed her book with comments from her blog, and while there occasionally were a few too many of them, it was fascinating to see this more interactive approach.

No matter if you'd consider yourself happy or not, I cannot recommend this book highly enough.
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Title: Lucy Maud Montgomery: The Gift of Wings
Author: Mary Henley Rubio
Genre: Biography
Rating: 8/10
# pages: 597
Date read: February, 2009

Summary: Mary Henley Rubio has spent over two decades researching Montgomery's life, and has put together a comprehensive and penetrating picture of this Canadian literary icon, all set in rich social context. Extensive interviews with people who knew Montgomery - her son, maids, friends, relatives, all now deceased - are only part of the material gathered in a journey to understand Montgomery that took Rubio to Poland and the highlands of Scotland.

From Montgomery's apparently idyllic childhood in Prince Edward Island to her passion-filled adolescence and young adulthood, to her legal fights as world-famous author, to her shattering experiences with motherhood and as wife to a deeply troubled man, this fascinating, intimate narrative of her life will engage and delight.

Review: Very interesting biography. However, unfortunately not quite as unbiased as I'd hoped to see from somebody who's done SUCH extensive research on her subject matter (of course I understand no biography can ever be completely unbiased... I guess "neutral" is a better word).

My initial impression was that I was glad I'd read the journals before reading this. First of all, there were events Rubio skimmed over very quickly, where I was glad to have a bit more background information than the biography gave. Secondly, I felt it provided me with a more nuanced view of LMM's life than I would have had if I'd only had the biography as a source.

The book is generally well-written, although I did feel like Rubio occasionally included too much background information. I understand the desire to share 20+ years worth of research, but I felt the book would have flowed better if she'd limited the detailed information about various people's ancestors and had used the space thus freed up to include the endnotes she was forced to leave out instead. Also, there were many repetitions, where Rubio repeated herself practically word-for-word over a space of just a few pages - close enough, anyway, that I noticed.

I really appreciated this "condensed" version of the journals - it's much, much easier to keep all the details of various events (the different lawsuits in particular) straight when they're presented with all the information in one place, rather than - as necessary in the journals - spread out over the course of several YEARS where you forget the first details before the last have even happened yet.

However, I do think that Rubio unfortunately drew a lot of conclusions that I don't believe she had grounds to make - not based on the information given in GoW anyway. Of course she may have had other interviews etc. to base her theories on, but as these were never mentioned in GoW the reader doesn't know about them, and it therefore comes across as idle speculation. The most obvious case is the alleged importance of a person in LMM's life, based solely on a page in one of her scrapbooks. Based on this information alone there simply isn't enough evidence to state anything for sure one way or the other. I for one didn't agree with her interpretation, and was sad to notice how Rubio twisted a lot of events in the following to suggest that her interpretation was the correct one. It may have been - I don't dispute that - but because of the way it was written, there doesn't seem to be enough evidence, and the entire speculation comes across as gossipy and sensational. Something I was very sad to see in what I'd hoped would be a serious account.

Don't get me wrong, it mostly is. It just wasn't as unbiased as I'd expected, and Rubio seemed at times almost patronizing towards LMM in places - putting a lot of emphasis on small events that made LMM end up looking petty and unkind. She may have been / probably was at times, but these unnecessary connecting of unrelated circumstances stood out like a sore thumb. Once specific example is the end note #38 of the Norval years, where Rubio makes a very unfavourable comparison that I think completely uncalled for and unjust.

That said, I still really enjoyed the book - especially the extra insights and small details that I didn't already know and that were based on Rubio's many and detailed interviews with LMM's various maids, friends and of course Stuart himself. Rubio's obviously passionate about her work, and it clearly shows in her writing, making it engaging and easily read.

So definitely a very, very interesting book - but like with all other biographies it should be taken with a grain of salt and a lot of common "source criticism", as no biography can ever claim to be 100% unbiased.

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